All posts tagged: adolescents

The Middle School Bus Stop – One Door Closes & Another Opens

So what’s up with that? Our pre-teens don’t want us waiting at the bus stop, but they’re the first ones to yell, “Shotgun!” as they enthusiastically plead to hop in the front seat of our car. I know I shouldn’t take it personally, like that day I ultimately acquiesced and didn’t go to the bus stop (okay, confession, I peeked from around the driveway….I mean, have you seen the news?), but can’t we maintain a mere bit of that parent-kid connection, that quality time thing……that How Are You, Tell Me About Your Day thing?   I hate to tell you, but those quality time days from the bus stop are gone. Gone like a ham sandwich with a hobo. Trade them in. Give that pre-teen of yours the rite of passage for . . . are you ready? . . . a new level of quality time. Once you view your tweener as big enough, safe enough, strong enough to handle that (gasp!) potential airbag thing, trade the bus stop in for the front seat. It’s …

Happiness: Inside Out

The new year is approaching. The “Happiness Advantage” has captured my attention. Alex Hetland gives us a formula to increase our “happy” state and make our brains 30% more efficient — in 2-5 minutes a day. That’s cool. It’s cool for us parents; and it’s cool for our kids, especially our adolescents. Consider for a moment that only 10% of happiness comes from one’s external world . . . while 90% of one’s happiness is a result of one’s internal world. This is supported in science. Having recently discovered the concept of the “Happiness Advantage,” conveyed by Alex Hetland, I have enjoyed a renewed perspective on happiness, and all which that entails. Within the “Happiness Advantage,” there is scientific proof that a “happy” state increases dopamine in the brain, which in turn makes the brain 30% more efficient (Lyubomirsky, 2005, in Hetland blog of March 2012). So, Hetland says, the “Advantage” comes from grasping the 90% happiness factor in our internal world — and maximizing it. He even tells us how to do so. With …

Changes in Your Pre-Teen Son

Notice any changes in your pre-teen son, lately?  Sleeping later than ever?  Still awake at his “regular” bedtime?  I don’t know about you, but these days, my son is tucking me in . . . because he’s still awake with no impending fatigue in sight.  You know, it’s all about the hormones. Yeah, really, even the sleep thing is about the hormones. There is a physiological base to his shifting sleep patterns. The bodies of our dear and precious adolescents typically release melatonin (the hormone that induces sleep) from about 11 pm to 8 am each day (“Wake-Up Calls for High Schools,” Boston Globe, 5/03).  That’s several hours after our adult melatonin kicks in. (Go figure! No surprise on that one; I can see your droopy eyes from here.) So what else does puberty have in store for you and your not-so-little guy? Find out in my upcoming posts.