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Pre-Teen Boys . . . Comparing Themselves to Others

Don’t we want our kids to be happy with themselves just the way they are? Aren’t we just a little disheartened when we see them comparing themselves to others . . . and worse yet, feeling that they don’t measure up? We all compare ourselves to others. Sometimes we adults are the biggest culprits. It’s simply human nature. Yet as we watch our teens do it, we want to steer them the other way. As Franklin Roosevelt once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” As our kids develop and step on the fast track of puberty, they are always looking around: Who’s taller? Who’s faster? Who’s developing first — and why is it me? Or not me? Have you ever thought of the Paradox of Pre-Teens? It is this. They all want to be uniquely THE SAME. As much as our pre-teens strive for unique independence, they want to seamlessly fit in. It’s the nature of the beast. Boys at this age are often pre-occupied with when and how they will experience the changes …