All posts tagged: patience

When Your Kid Is Benched

My son was on the bench.  For four weeks.  Injured from his favorite sport.  Or shall I say his passion ?  It was rough, for all of us.  It was physically painful for him, not to mention emotionally painful — for him — and for all of us.  Some kids find themselves on the bench…following an injury…awaiting their call to the line-up…as a result of committing a penalty…or being “put there” by a coach to carry forth a lesson. What can our kids learn from The Bench? They learn how to view life, sports, and “the team” from a different perspective —  to see things outside of the box.  A great deal of sports strategies and tactical plays arise from watching from the sidelines.  Some kids on the bench can find themselves in the perfect position to learn not only what to do . . . but what NOT to do.  Sometimes watching from the sidelines can be its own premier training, especially for those visual learners.  It can be prime time viewing of “where I or the …

The Give and Take of Teenagers

There is a lot of taking in my house . . . the “taking” of rides to practice, the taking of dinner, the taking of clean clothes, the taking of food purchased at the store. I don’t always see a lot of giving. I’m not talking about the generous-save-the-world kind of giving. I’m talking about what my friend calls Common Kitchen Courtesy. I’m talking about the Common Kitchen Courtesy that should be “given” not only in the kitchen, but in the car, the family room, the laundry room, upstairs. I’m talking about a (simple) “thank you” to mom when she takes you to practice and delivers you home. I’m talking about a “yes” instead of a grunt, with just a tad of eye contact. I’m talking about answering the (basic) questions and acknowledging the (loving) comments posed to you from the people who love and care for you the most. I’m talking about the give and take . . . of teenagers. I get teenagers. I get that they need their space . . . …