All posts tagged: rite of passage

The Middle School Bus Stop – One Door Closes & Another Opens

So what’s up with that? Our pre-teens don’t want us waiting at the bus stop, but they’re the first ones to yell, “Shotgun!” as they enthusiastically plead to hop in the front seat of our car. I know I shouldn’t take it personally, like that day I ultimately acquiesced and didn’t go to the bus stop (okay, confession, I peeked from around the driveway….I mean, have you seen the news?), but can’t we maintain a mere bit of that parent-kid connection, that quality time thing……that How Are You, Tell Me About Your Day thing?   I hate to tell you, but those quality time days from the bus stop are gone. Gone like a ham sandwich with a hobo. Trade them in. Give that pre-teen of yours the rite of passage for . . . are you ready? . . . a new level of quality time. Once you view your tweener as big enough, safe enough, strong enough to handle that (gasp!) potential airbag thing, trade the bus stop in for the front seat. It’s …

So Your Son Wants to Shave

So your son wants to shave. Maybe you’re not sure if he’s ready – or better yet – if you’re ready. Shaving is one of those big milestones – a rite of passage. Some boys may be eager to start shaving while others may need some prodding when it clearly appears to be time. Boys do not need to start shaving as soon as their facial hair appears. It all depends on how he —and you—feel about him shaving. Boys may notice more facial hair as early as 9 or as late as 15, but most boys will not have enough facial hair to shave on a regular basis until they are well into their teens. If your son is interested in shaving, it’s really (just another) consideration for you and him. Consider his thoughts, feelings and desires about it. To many boys, it is a “manly” thing to do, and some may be eager to do it. If your son is interested, but you’re not sure if he “needs” to, talk to him about …