All posts tagged: self-esteem

When in Rome . . . And Other Life Lessons for Kids

I want to take my kids to Europe. See the sights.  Experience the art.  Take in the food . . . the history . . . the culture. I’ve realized that when I take my kids to Europe it will be more than exposing them to the beauty, the allure, the attraction of Europe – and beyond. They will also learn . . . to suck it up  .  .  .  “tiens le coup,” as they say in France.  In English terms, it means:  to withstand the weather; to endure; to tough it out, and to stick it out. I’m not talking about the “sucking it up” that they learn on a mission trip or otherwise.  That’s another story.  For another time (but certainly on the radar screen). Taking kids to another country requires them to learn tolerance and the appreciation of differences, while learning to relinquish their advantaged American conveniences.  When in Rome, they learn to do as the Romans do, and so on with the French in France, the Swiss in Switzerland, and …

The Balance of Parenting

Nurture. Empower. Support. Discipline. Boundaries. This parenting thing is such a balance. Build them up; foster their self-esteem; nurture confidence, yet instill independence and responsibility. Maintain boundaries. Communicate consequences. And deliver them consistently. Sometimes it’s a tough row to hoe – and not always an easy one. Take the every-day things. We usually know, in our heads, what we should do. But doesn’t the hectic pace of all those everyday-little- things-and-activities-and-to-do’s-and-texts-and-phone calls-and-emails just get in the darn way sometimes? Sometimes I think this parenting thing would be much easier, much more effective, in a place like Walden Pond or some other inspired utopian community. Ahhhhhhh . . . . not exactly realistic. But I can imagine . . . In the meantime, I, as a loving and well-intentioned parent, perpetually try to balance the delicate acts of nurturing self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth in my kids, while also “preparing them to be citizens of the world.” I read, I listen to, I soak in, and I ponder a variety of “parenting” topics out there, and inevitably, …