All posts tagged: kids

When in Rome . . . And Other Life Lessons for Kids

I want to take my kids to Europe. See the sights.  Experience the art.  Take in the food . . . the history . . . the culture. I’ve realized that when I take my kids to Europe it will be more than exposing them to the beauty, the allure, the attraction of Europe – and beyond. They will also learn . . . to suck it up  .  .  .  “tiens le coup,” as they say in France.  In English terms, it means:  to withstand the weather; to endure; to tough it out, and to stick it out. I’m not talking about the “sucking it up” that they learn on a mission trip or otherwise.  That’s another story.  For another time (but certainly on the radar screen). Taking kids to another country requires them to learn tolerance and the appreciation of differences, while learning to relinquish their advantaged American conveniences.  When in Rome, they learn to do as the Romans do, and so on with the French in France, the Swiss in Switzerland, and …

I Finally Got on Facebook and My Kid Got Off

Facebook is out, Instagram is in. At least in these kids’ eyes. He’s following him. She’s following her. I seem to be following everyone and everything except my kid. On social media that is. These kids are two steps ahead. No matter how hard we try, no matter how fast we try to stay ahead, we are two steps behind in this social media world. Even a middle school technology teacher told me she can’t seem to stay two steps ahead of them. And what about Tumblr. Kik (me). And what appears to be the the most elusive of them all (because nobody is following anybody, at least we parents of these kids) – Snapchat. What’s a mom to do? Like I said before (in that other blog back there), I do what every good millennium mom does. I google. Tried it. Doesn’t work. The answers just aren’t there. But lo and behold, I can offer you this: 11 Sites & Apps Kids Are Heading To After Facebook. The quickest, most comprehensive thing about all …

The Balance of Parenting

Nurture. Empower. Support. Discipline. Boundaries. This parenting thing is such a balance. Build them up; foster their self-esteem; nurture confidence, yet instill independence and responsibility. Maintain boundaries. Communicate consequences. And deliver them consistently. Sometimes it’s a tough row to hoe – and not always an easy one. Take the every-day things. We usually know, in our heads, what we should do. But doesn’t the hectic pace of all those everyday-little- things-and-activities-and-to-do’s-and-texts-and-phone calls-and-emails just get in the darn way sometimes? Sometimes I think this parenting thing would be much easier, much more effective, in a place like Walden Pond or some other inspired utopian community. Ahhhhhhh . . . . not exactly realistic. But I can imagine . . . In the meantime, I, as a loving and well-intentioned parent, perpetually try to balance the delicate acts of nurturing self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth in my kids, while also “preparing them to be citizens of the world.” I read, I listen to, I soak in, and I ponder a variety of “parenting” topics out there, and inevitably, …

Vacation. Unplugged.

We turned off our electronics this week — and totally unplugged — on vacation — at the Jersey shore. We took the causeway to the Seven Mile Island of the quiet yet engaging towns of Stone Harbor and Avalon, New Jersey.  We parked the car.  And didn’t get back in all week.   We biked to the beach, we biked for ice cream, we biked for those delectable crab cakes.  We unplugged – all week – from it all. Even mom and dad.  Unplugged from the cell phone, from email, from texting. It was the best week we ever had. I don’t know about you and yours, but our kids have become sucked in (to electronics, that is).  As with anything that sucks us in, it’s a little alarming to give it up.  I say alarming because it was like an alarm went off when my husband and I said we were turning IT ALL OFF on our vacation for the week.  Wow.  What a wake up call – it was like a jolt went through their bodies.  …

Making It a Great Summer (by guest blogger, Deneitra Hutchinson)

I recently participated in a fantastic Twitter chat hosted by children’s author Terri Trenchard and life & wellness coach Trisha Chason. Everyone participating had one goal in mind: making this a productive and positive summer for the entire family. Here, in my opinion, is the best of that conversation. Be sure to add your favorite summer tips in the comment section below. With the end of the school year, comes summer break. Will summer be like a Country Time lemonade commercial or a time of planned activities — or both? As parents, our youthful days of summer have long passed. We played all day with friends and family. We spent the day in the woods, exploring. When we stayed home, we read until our heads hurt. We made-up games, rode bikes, and visited each other’s homes. But what about our children? What do they want? CHALLENGE 1: Ask your child to describe a healthy, summer day. Do they want regular “chill” activities or do they want BIG, ELABORATE plans? How much is enough…one weekday, and one …

Spring Break: A Fresh Look . . . And New Chores?

We’re about to board our plane for spring break, and a thought just took over my brain: “Huh. This traveling thing is pretty easy these days with kids.” I’ve got two, kids that is. One boy (13) and one girl (10). Like anybody’s kids, they are the pride and joy of my life. Yet, now they’re actually helpful. A light bulb went off today, boarding that plane, as I realized how easy this traveling thing (with kids) has become. I reminisced for a moment, looking back on the years of traveling with my pride and joys (those kids, that is.) I was one of those parents who exhausted herself (and anyone else traveling with me) with an over-flowing carry-on of the good ‘ole-fashioned non-electronic entertainment of books . . . activities . . . connect-the-dot books . . . Cheerios . . . to engage them with quality time throughout the never-ending hours in the airports, during layovers, and on the plane. I look now at the young(er) mothers schlepping through the airport, baby on …